It’s been a few days now and matters seem to have stabilized between us. We talk a lot more lately, with the exception of yesterday, where we were both pretty quiet. But some days are just like that.
I think that on my part the problems that I had are just impossible to go through all at once. It would force dredging up a ton of things from the past that would only bring up old hurts and pain. I need to take a suggestion from our blunt but perceptive friend and just let it all go. But when these situations replay themselves out in the present (and they will) I need to bring these issues up in the context of the present, hopefully gently enough she doesn’t withdraw.
I tended to not bring things up just thinking it was better to keep the peace. But that just meant things would only come to light when we were arguing and that brought with it an… explosive effect.
Lack of communication is our largest problem along with HOW we communicated when we managed to do so. That’s really what we have to change.
That won’t be easy for either of us. As ever we are stubborn people.
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